This excerpt is from the Mental Management’s Newsletter, but I thought it should be shared with more, especially with the MPFO family:
Goal Set for what you can control
(Posted with permission from Heather Sumlin)
As sponsors for the Miss Texas Pageant we attended the preliminary and final nights of competition this last week. I also had an opportunity to attend rehearsals for talent and watch the girls as they went in and exited the interview room. Being submersed in pageants for a week I realized that some of the issues pageant contestants face may also appear in other sports, especially subjective sports.
Pageants are a different kind of sport for the most part. Where else are you judged on your appearance, talent and intelligence? It’s an interesting combination of a sport competition and job interview. The ability to stay focused and positive is challenging because unlike most sports where people aren’t really concerned with you too much, it feels like everyone is watching you and judging you – but just like every other sport – you cannot let what other people may think or say affect your ability to perform.
It’s a long exhausting week filled with competition and these girls have not competed at all in months. Once you win your local title you will not compete again until the state competition – once you win State you only compete 1 more time – you only get 1 chance at Miss America. What if your sport only gave you one shot at a national title – would you train differently? Would the intensity of your training change?
Once it is over those who didn’t win Miss Texas and are still eligible and want to compete will have to start their quest for Miss Texas all over again. They aren’t competing for the same judges next time, the players will change and the talent, beauty and brains needed to win next time may be different. I sat unable to predict the winner Saturday night and it occurred to me – more than 1 person deserves the job of Miss Texas and more than 1 person is ready but only 1 person can win. Will those whom do not win walk away defeated?
Our clients were all told before the competition the same thing: Goal set ONLY for what you can control! You cannot control the outcome of a competition. You cannot control who the judges will chose in the end. But you CAN control your attitude about your performance. You CAN control your actions during the week and your performance in each phase of competition. Most importantly you CAN control your training.
Competitors in most sports seem to train easy and compete hard or they train hard and compete hard causing them to over-try. They have it backwards. You need to train HARD, put in the hours, the effort; the sweat to know that you did all you could before the competition to be the best you can be. When the competition arrives – RELAX, HAVE FUN and just enjoy the ride. Trust that all of your hard work in training was enough to carry you to your goal.
If you compete in a subjective sport or you are in a competitive business environment that is subjective remember that what matters most is did you give a performance that lives up to your potential? If so you cannot ask for more, if not, why not? Did you truly train hard enough to excel – did you out train your competition? Did you really relax and trust your training? Did you have a mental program in advance and did you follow it? Did you write in your Performance Analysis daily? Were your circles in balance?
After all of the drama and excitement was over, I talked with some of our clients who did not win but truly performed better than I had ever seen them before and they all walked away feeling like winners inside. The winner of Miss Texas and Miss Teen Texas deserved the win, no question but there were other ladies standing on stage that also deserved to win. Not everyone can win in competition but everyone can walk away achieving their goals and feel like a winner!
By: Heather Sumlin – Director of Customer Relations, Instructor for Pageant & Stage Performers
Mental Management: www.mentalmanagement.com